Two-Way Communication
by Jerome J. Schultz,Ph.D.The Issue
A key to successful home/school relationships is regular two-way communication. As a parent, what can you do to make sure this happens?
Don't expect to do much serious talking about your child's needs at an open house. Use that occasion to meet the teacher, let the teacher see who you are, visit the classroom, and hear about your child's program. Then, call the teacher in a day or two and ask for a meeting at a mutually agreeable time. Before the meeting you can send the teacher a list (not too long) of questions that you have (so she can prepare for the meeting), and you can also share with the teacher your "wishes and worries" for your child.
You can also let the teacher know how you think your child learns best and what will really motivate (or turn off) your son or daughter. If the teacher doesn't ask you how she would like you to be involved as a parent, then ask the teacher. Let the teacher know if there are any reasons that you might not be able to do what she would like you to do (you know -- you're a single parent with two jobs and you're the scout leader and you sing in the choir and you're getting your master's degree over the Internet -- that kind of thing).
Ask the teacher how much contact she likes to have with parents and when she prefers to talk and how (face to face, over the phone, via email). If you find that you have difficulty talking with the teacher for any reason, let her know why. If this simple, honest communication doesn't work, then call the principal to ask for help. You may wish to have your spouse or partner do the talking, or you may need or prefer to use an intermediary, such as the learning center teacher or a guidance counselor. Whatever you do, don't stop talking! Your child is too important.
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