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Adult Harasses Middle-Schooler
Q: Two nights ago a parent approached my child at his basketball game. The parent -- let's call him Mr. X -- introduced himself and extended his hand to shake my son's hand. Mr. X began talking to my son and squeezing my son's hand harder and harder. At the same time, Mr. X told my son to stop meddling with his daughter and asked if he understood. My son replied, "Yes, sir." What would you do in this situation? He approached my son two additional times during the same game, saying harsh words and intimidating him.
A: I am assuming your son in middle school. If so, Mr. X has physically assaulted him. I would call Mr. X and ask what the problem was. I would let him explain, and then I would firmly state that in the future if Mr. X has a problem with your son, he is to call you and you will take care of it. Furthermore, state that under no circumstances is he ever to touch your son again, and, if he does, you will file an assault report.
This man is an overgrown bully. Call him on it.
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Connie Collins, professional school counselor, worked for 35 years in public education as a teacher and counselor at the middle school and secondary levels. Collins worked daily with the parents of the students in her various schools, and has facilitated several parenting groups.