Helping Students Apply for College

The senior year of high school can be a very difficult time for parents and students. You want the best of all things for your child and you may get somewhat frustrated if you feel there is a breakdown in communication. You may also fear that college admission professionals are not wise enough to see all the terrific qualities that your child possesses. Of course, your child is still maturing, and you want the colleges to recognize the great potential you see lurking just beneath the surface.

One of the most important things to remember during this stressful period is to keep the lines of communication open. Make every effort to talk with your child about college plans and activities. Try not to force your ideas and ambitions on your youngster, and try to respect his or her decisions. If you talk out the issues together, both academic and financial, it will significantly increase the chance for a good decision.

It is important to be honest and realistic with your child. Understand that everyone cannot be accepted at the most selective colleges in the nation. The "big names" can only take a small proportion of the thousands who apply each year. Be realistic about the chances for your young scholar. Most college graduates have been successful without ever seeing ivy. Consider the high cost of education early in the search and inform your child of your financial parameters. It is better to face this issue in the fall rather than during the excitement of spring decision time! It is important to read the information provided by the high school, the testing organizations, and the colleges. Frequently, data such as test scores and admission material are misinterpreted because they are not read with care. You will be amazed to learn that the college picture is not as grim as that painted by the popular media. When you have a question, do not hesitate to call your child's counselor. One phone call can often do the trick.

One last suggestion. I have seen too many parents try to do everything for the child. Do not do it! Colleges want to see the individual efforts of each candidate. They are very experienced in reading between the lines. They do not want to see the work of the adults on the college applications or on the essays. And don't forget to be encouraging. Your child will need your strong support to make the most of this important process.

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