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Three-Year-Old Doesn't Talk

LD and ADD/ADHD Expert Advice from Jerome J. Schultz, Ph.D.

Q: I have a three-year-old nephew who is still not talking. He has had two specialized hearing screens, both of which came back normal. It appears that he does not understand what you are saying, or is just ignoring you. He is beginning speech therapy; however, my family would like to know what possible diagnoses we could begin researching. Any ideas?

A: It's important to note that some gifted and talented children don't say much when they are young, and then they just start talking in sentences. It's as if they are so focused on exploring their world that they just don't have time for talking, especially when their communication is not well enough developed for "mature" communication. When these kids start talking, look out! (Actually, it's quite a wonderful phenomenon.) Twins often don't talk or use "normal" language because they have such an intense relationship with their brother or sister and because there's no real need to talk to adults. Does your nephew live in a household where older siblings speak for him, or do things before he really asks, so that he may not really need to use language? These would be normal and more healthy interpretations of the language delays you describe.

However, delays in communication (either the ability to understand or use spoken language) can signal more serious problems. Since I don't know this child, I can't make a diagnosis, of course, but I can offer some possibilities to consider. This problem with communication could be a manifestation of severe early language-based learning disabilities. It could also signal a significant developmental (intellectual) delay. Does your nephew interact with people and objects in his world in a meaningful, way? Does he use appropriate gestures to get people to do what he wants or to make his needs known? Does he use objects in ways that are appropriate (given his young age)? Does he accurately copy or imitate the actions of other people? If not, he may be intellectually limited and delayed speech is just one aspect of a general developmental delay or retardation.

Children with autism often have a history that includes delays in speech or a deterioration of communication skills after they appeared to be developing normally. If your nephew exhibits odd mannerisms (repetitive movements or self-stimulatory behavior such as repeatedly playing with wheels on toy trucks, rocking, spinning, or hand-flapping), then it's important to consider this diagnosis.

Hearing loss would certainly cause the problems you describe, but it sounds as if this has been ruled out. (Is this little boy aware of environmental noises? Does he look up when people enter the room or when a fire engine goes by? If not, then look again at hearing as the cause). Make sure to ask his pediatrician what he or she thinks, and have your nephew evaluated by a speech and language pathologist who specializes in young children. Getting to the bottom of this now is very important, since the earlier any necessary therapies are begun, the more effective they will be.

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Jerome (Jerry) Schultz is the founding clinical director of the Learning Lab @ Lesley University, a program that provides assessment, tutoring, and case management services for children with learning challenges. Schultz holds a Ph.D. from Boston College, and has completed postdoctoral fellowships in both clinical psychology and pediatric neuropsychology.


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