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Few Preschool Choices for Gifted

Gifted and Talented Expert Advice from Felice Kaufmann, Ph.D.

Q: My three-year-old has been ahead of the game for quite some time. We recently moved and I can't find an adequate Montessori school in our area. I have contacted a number of preschools; however, when they describe the curriculum for their three-year-olds, I cringe, because my son has been doing these things since he was one or two.

I liked the Montessori program because he could grow and learn at his own pace. Either way, he could use the social interaction of his age group and older. Do you have any advice? I want to make sure I am helping to grow his gifts -- whatever they may be -- and I know this is a critical age.

A: It's unfortunate that you can't find a school that matches the one your son previously attended, but the situation is not hopeless! For one thing, your son's giftedness is not going to go away. Giftedness is an extremely robust trait and can survive in all kinds of circumstances. This means that school is not the only place in which his abilities will grow and thrive. Also, with regard to your concerns about his age, you might want to know that the notion of "the critical first three years" is being challenged in some circles -- check out the controversial book by John Bruer called The Myth of the First Three Years. Brain development is critical throughout childhood, so you should not allow yourself to become too worried over the timing of this development.

You are clearly an observant mom, one who has a keen eye for what your son does and does not need, and what he can and cannot do. If you really believe that the available preschools will not match your son's abilities, see if you can organize other activities for him, especially if they involve older children. Gifted children often benefit from multi-age groups because they can get some of their intellectual needs met by older children and their social needs met by their age peers. By his activities and choices, your son will self-select children of similar abilities.

Perhaps you can post notices in a community center or in houses of worship in your neighborhood to invite families to join playgroups based on common interests. I have even seen such signs in our local grocery store! The kind of situation you describe is actually quite common. There might be more people like yourself in the community than you think.

You also might want to contact the local chapter of an organization for gifted and talented students to see if they have had similar requests. You can find information about these groups either by contacting the person in charge of gifted programs at your state department of education or The National Association for Gifted Children (nagc.org). Also, college and universities often have special programs for gifted children, including preschoolers. These frequently take place on weekends, after school, or in the summer. You might want to contact the education or child development departments of the university closest to you to see if such a program exists or whether you can help start one. Good luck!

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Felice Kaufmann is an independent consultant in gifted child education. Kaufman has been a classroom teacher and counselor of gifted children, grades K-12, and a professor at Auburn University and the Universities of New Orleans and Kentucky, where she created teacher training programs in gifted child education. She has served on the Board of Directors of the National Association for Gifted Children and the Executive Board of the Association of the Gifted.

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