Home > Teens > Puberty and Sex > Teens and Dating > Mother Fears Early Sexuality
|

Expert Iconexpert advice MORE

Mother Fears Early Sexuality

Middle School Expert Advice from Connie Collins

Q: My 12-year-old daughter has a boyfriend who is a year older. They are both only children from divorced households. Both kids are supervised closely by their parents. I have created rules about them being together to be sure an adult is always present. I know that she was "cuddling" with him in his house while his dad was in another room and she had her "first kiss," with open mouths. She is very excited and I am very nervous about her awakening sexuality. She has told me the details and we do talk. I am a bit worried that if she starts kissing now that will lead to early sexuality. I have given her my opinions on the matter and I told her we will schedule a conversation about her beliefs about her actions. What is the normal range for kissing, dating etc.?

A: The normal range for kissing -- especially open-mouthed kissing -- would probably be at least high-school level. Dating, in a couple rather than a group, would be about 15-16 years old. It's good that you are so open with your daughter and talk with her. It is also good that you are aware of your fears of her budding sexuality and that you recognize her as a sexual being.

All that being said, I would encourage you to keep your daughter and her boyfriend busy with other activities when they are together. Keep up the supervision and emphasize the importance of being friends first. One year's age difference is a lot at her age.

More on: Expert Advice

Connie Collins, professional school counselor, worked for 35 years in public education as a teacher and counselor at the middle school and secondary levels. Collins worked daily with the parents of the students in her various schools, and has facilitated several parenting groups.


Please note: This "Expert Advice" area of FamilyEducation.com should be used for general information purposes only. Advice given here is not intended to provide a basis for action in particular circumstances without consideration by a competent professional. Before using this Expert Advice area, please review our General and Medical Disclaimers.

stay connected

Sign up for our free email newsletters and receive the latest advice and information on all things parenting.

Enter your email address to sign up or manage your account.

Facebook icon Twitter icon Follow Us on Pinterest

editor’s picks

highlights

Healthy Smile Checklist for Kids
Have better dental check-ups with this free printable checklist that helps keep your child flossing, brushing, and smiling! Brought to you by Philips Sonicare.

Kindergarten Readiness App
It's kindergarten registration time! Use this interactive kindergarten readiness checklist, complete with fun games and activities, to practice the essential skills your child needs for this next big step. Download the Kindergarten Readiness app today!

8 Easter Egg Decorating Ideas
Need some fun ideas for decorating Easter eggs with the kids? Look no further for colorful and cool designs!

7 Ways to Curb Kids' Exposure to Violence
American children are exposed to violence more often than you might think. Learn how to limit your child's exposure to violence and manage the mental health and behavioral effects it can cause.