Setting a Curfew

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Middle School Expert Advice from Connie Collins

Question: I'm a single mother of a 14-year-old son. I realize kids want to be independent and make some of their own decisions, but, I feel that setting a curfew is my job. What is a good time for a 14-year-old boy to be inside? We live in a small town, but it is close to a larger community.

Answer: It is your job to set the curfew for any child that lives in your home. Many cities have their own curfews, so you might consider the curfew in the larger community as a guideline as well as what activities your son can legally and safely engage in on weekends. On school nights most kids should generally be home from dinner on -- after all, there are chores, homework, and family time. The most important issue is talking with your son about the reasons for your decision, letting him voice his opinion, and maybe doing some compromising, but knowing that you have the final say and ultimate responsibility.

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Connie Collins, professional school counselor, worked for 35 years in public education as a teacher and counselor at the middle school and secondary levels. Collins worked daily with the parents of the students in her various schools, and has facilitated several parenting groups.

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