ADHD: Establishing Routines
One of the first steps in reducing household chaos is to establish routines. That means determining what situations occur regularly and then establishing a structure or sequence to be repeated every single day. Routines mean repetition and repetition means practice. Practice allows a child to become proficient (or at least better) at completing the basic requirements by himself. This is helpful to all children, essential for some.
The process for establishing a routine or changing a specific behavior requires answers to three questions: What do I want the child to do instead of what he is doing? How can I put it in a visual format so he doesn't have to rely on me telling him what to do? What will make it worth his while?
To establish routines or change behaviors, answer these questions:
Without an answer to all three questions you will have failed to clarify your expectations in a way that allows your child to check what you wanted and double-check his progress toward those expectations. A visual format gives him the ability to do that without you reminding him. Moreover, it provides the necessary incentive to keep him going.
- What do I want him to do instead of what he is doing?
- How can I put it in a visual format so he doesn't have to rely on me telling him what to do?
- What will make it worth his while?
From From Chaos to Calm: Effective Parenting of Challenging Children with ADHD and Other Behavioral Problems by Janet E. Heininger and Sharon K. Weiss. Copyright © 2001. Used by arrangement with Penguin Group (USA) Inc.
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