Reinforcement for Children with ADD
- Praise (verbal and nonverbal)
- Praise coupled with activities
- Praise coupled with tangible rewards
- Token economy systems
Early research findings in this area provided parents with a simple dictum: "Catch them when they're good." It was clear that the more parents commented on their child's positive behavior, the more the child displayed the behavior. It sounds so simple, but it's not. Parents may be so attuned to focusing on negative behavior that they find the shift in focus very difficult. Some parents may find it awkward praising their children for appropriate behaviors. Some parents feel especially uncomfortable when praising their child outside of the home. Why, they wonder, do they have to praise desired behavior, when other parents don't? And moreover, others look at them in disbelief. We can only say that it has been demonstrated to be effective. The professional literature and our experiences indicate that initially it is awkward and, at times, uncomfortable to be so effusive in your praise. Yet, when you start receiving results, it becomes worth it. A step-by-step guide to delivering praise is as follows:
- Make a list of all appropriate behaviors your child engages in, no matter how simple they appear to be. Take nothing for granted. The easiest way to do this is to write down during a typical day every appropriate behavior from the time your child awakens until she goes to sleep. If both parents are available, both should make lists. Do this independently of each other. You'd be surprised how much each of you misses.
- Every time your child displays the targeted behavior, say and/or do something positive. Try to vary your comments so that you are not continually saying, "Good." It's helpful if you can be specific in your praise. For example, "I like the way you got ready for school this morning; you really made me proud." Smiles, winks, and hugs should also be used frequently.
- Praise should be delivered only after your child displays the appropriate behavior. You are trying to establish a link between the behavior and the consequence. If you praise her when she is engaging in inappropriate behaviors, you will increase them, which is exactly the opposite of what you are attempting to do.
- Praise should be delivered very often in the beginning of a behavioral program. This continuous reinforcement serves to strengthen a behavior. As the behavior occurs more often, you can gradually reduce praise.
- Praise should be delivered immediately after the behavior occurs in the beginning stages. Every time a positive behavior occurs, praise should be given. Over time you will be able to reduce the frequency of praise, but not until the behavior has been clearly established.
- Praise should be genuine. Most parents we know are truly pleased when their child engages in appropriate behavior. Their praise merely reflects this. If you use praise in an artificial manner, children will see through it.
- If you find it difficult to give praise, try some of these tips:
- Post signs around the house (especially in the cupboards in the kitchen) to serve as reminders. (Example: Don't forget to let Adam know how much you appreciate his "eating behavior.")
- Tape record segments of the day and play them back, in order to monitor your rate of praise.
- Buy a wrist golf counter and record your behavior each day. Try to increase it by ten percent daily.
- Put a piece of adhesive tape on your wrist and make a mark each time you praise your child.
The next step in the hierarchy is praise coupled with activities. These activities should be ones readily available in your home; you should not have to go out and buy lavish rewards. Merely write down all the activities your child finds pleasurable. Every time she engages in the appropriate behavior, she has "earned" the activity. These should be somewhat simple activities, such as being read to, watching TV, playing ball, playing a board game. Essentially, children learn that first they do something that you want them to do, then they receive something they want.
Parents find this procedure to be very effective. You are not using threats ("Remember, if you want to play ball..."). Rather, you are allowing them to "earn" privileges when they engage in appropriate behaviors. Once again, this may not be effective for all behaviors. If this does not work, proceed to the next step in the hierarchy.
Praise coupled with tangible reinforcement may be necessary for some children with ADD, especially younger children and those with more severe deficits. As noted above, praise should be continued and coupled with a tangible reinforcement immediately after the behavior occurs. Try to think of all the tangible rewards your child likes. These can be stickers, pencils, pads, food, or any small item your child enjoys. Use only small amounts. Try to spread the rewards throughout the day. In many cases, parents benefit at this point from consultation with a professional who is well-versed in applied behavior-analysis techniques. The use of tangibles needs to be closely monitored.
It may also be appropriate to implement a token economy system - that is, a system whereby your child earns points, stars, tokens, and similar items that can be traded in at a later date for specified reinforcements. Some children and adolescents benefit from the use of contracts - that is, when a parent and child develop an agreement specifying what each must do. These contracts are not impossible to carry out on your own, but we believe it is wise to consult a professional. Once you have developed the skills necessary to carry out such programs, you will begin to see changes in your child's behavior. And you are more apt to develop such skills under the guidance of a professional.
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